The Proposal

I'M ENGAGED!!! Guess he liked it so he put a ring on it! Hehe.. Anyway, I thought that as it was a rather momentous occasion in my life the event deserved its own blog post! So here is the story of how I hooked myself a man (minus the baby).

I woke up the morning of August 18th in a pretty bad mood. Adam's uncle and aunt were in town for a bit so we had planned a family lake day so everyone could hang out together, but I had slept terribly the couple of nights prior and when it finally came time to get up and ready I was pretty miserable and tired. While everyone was getting ready to go I was hiding up in my room waiting for my bathing suit to dry and kind of wishing I could just go back to sleep. Eventually everyone else left for the lake but Adam and I so I came downstairs, got some food and ate while watching Kim Kardashian's wedding (ironically enough) on TV. It took a while to get me moving, but we finally finished packing up our car and headed out too. We hit Tim Horton's on the way to get dessert for everyone and a drink for me cause I think Adam thought it would make me feel better (which it did), he is pretty nice like that. When we finally got to the lake and things were pretty uneventful. We hung out with family and chatted and I relaxed on the beach and watched everyone else swim. Normally I love swimming but that day I didn't really feel up to it so I just chilled. Or I chilled until Adam asked me to come in the water with him. I put up a bit of a fight, but finally agreed to swim for a little bit. I got halfway in the water and then Adam's brother asked him to come play volley ball which he had really been looking forward so he wanted to go. Unfortunately that's when the hormones and lack of sleep decided to hit full force. I literally just sat down in the sand at the edge of the water and started sobbing uncontrollably. At this point Adam had just gone up the beach to get his stuff and when he saw me sitting he came back to see if I was ok. He was met by a very distraught me in the middle of a major pregnancy meltdown. I was crying so hard I could barely talk, but basically I told him I was just so tired that all I wanted to do was go home and nap (probably not how he had hoped this day would start off). Thankfully he loves me well enough to deeply care and knows me well enough to know how to care for me. He held me there on the beach, told me he wouldn't leave, and just let me cry for a while and when I had calmed down a bit he made me laugh by saying silly things I don't remember. Then I told him I would come watch him play volley ball and he gathered all my stuff for me and we walked to the nets together. Him and his family had a lot of fun playing and I even joined in for a bit once I had rested for a while. After volley ball we all went back to out camp out spot for dinner and had a lovely BBQ. The day was winding down and I was in a much better mood. I had just pulled out the Tim Bits when Adam pulled out some papers and stood up in front of everyone. At this point I knew something was going on and I had a guess as to what it was, but it wasn't until he started reading the poem that I knew for sure. He had written it for me and about me. He addressed it to "The Fibstress" (a nickname he had given me long ago when he would know something was wrong and ask me if I was ok and I would always say I yes even if I wasn't). He wrote about my sweatpants that I always used to wear with names of different countries on the bum and about our first date and how he had fallen in love with me. He told me later that he made sure not to say anything about the baby because, even though we love our little one dearly and their life has made our love for each other stronger than ever, he wanted me to know that he wanted to marry me for me, because he loves me and wants to spend his life with me regardless of whether or not we have a baby. Then, as he read the last couple of stanzas, he got down on one knee, pulled a box out of his pocket (with some difficulty) and asked me to marry him. We were both shaking and before I even saw the ring I was down on my knees in the sand with him saying yes as we hugged there. When I finally drew away he put a ring on my finger. At first I was confused but then I realized that he had taken a ring of mine that I had given him long ago and attached a butterfly from a necklace that I had also left with him. Both items were full of promises and love. After that we had a major hug fest with all the family and then headed home. I must say that the day ended very differently than I had expected and very happily so. The next day Adam and I went shopping to buy rings for both of us because even though the one he gave me was wonderful it was also somewhat delicate and I wanted to have a symbol of our promise that I could wear all the time with pride knowing that I have committed my life to such a wonderful man. This year has held a lot for us, a lot of growing and learning. A lot of heartbreak and even more happiness. I am so thankful that Adam was placed in my life and that I now get the honour and privilege of marrying my best friend and a man who knows my heart so well and loves me so much. 

Actual proposal caught on camera by Adam's sister Bri! :)

The top is the ring Adam made me and the bottom is the ring I now wear :)

Adam's Ring :)

And for those who haven't read it yet, this is the poem :)

To The Fibstress

The first I met The Fibstress girl,

Sweat pants she wore, of all the world

Her beauty masked and subtle wit
Was kinda weird, but I liked it

In bible study did we meet
Lead by her mom, I found it neat

Listened to God for signs & wonders
But all my attempts felt like blunders

For this girl would shut her eye's
An' report most things logic denies

And the more I heard, the more was spun
Into the web my heart had come

Then the day at Whiterock came,
The day I learned you knew my shame

We walked the beach and talked and played
Friendship was formed, the bond was made

Whiterock would hold more memories
Like beautiful hair and wedding melodies

Together we rode into the unknown
An' mistakes were made that we need atone

However one thing I know to do
And that is to stand with you

To protect your heart and keep it safe
To deflect the arrows from enemy wraith

To be by your side above all things
No matter what this life brings

I stand not only because I choose
But by the support that you infuse

Your passion, your care, your constant love
Are to me as gifts from above

So down I go on bended knee
Expressing myself through poetry

I take this stance in awe of you
A friend who knows my heart so true

Now so many ways you humble me
With your thirst for knowledge and divine beauty

I don't really know why me you chose
But it's time I brought this rhyme to close

The Fibstress remains an elusive creature
One I hope my life will feature

So on one knee I ask to thee
Lydja will you marry me?